Episode Transcript
[00:00:01] Speaker A: What is up, sluts? I am kind of whispering right now because I just wrapped up my west coast tour and a few nights ago I was on the 62nd floor of a luxury hotel pegging one of my sluts over the Vegas strip. And now I am in Bumfuck, Mississippi, visiting my family at my family's house and trying hopefully not gonna wake them up.
So there will be on all of my Vegas and LA escapades, sexcapades adventures coming soon. But for now, today's episode I actually recorded with Domina Augustina on the first day of x biz 2 weeks ago. Feels like 10 years ago. Domina Augustina is the first prodom that I worked with. I was lucky enough to be invited into a session of hers a couple of years ago and the rest is fucking history. So we are going to talk about that in today's episode and I am.
[00:01:08] Speaker B: Going to take my ass to fucking.
[00:01:10] Speaker A: Bed as I am still recovering from Vegas and probably will be for a while.
Enjoy, Sluts.
[00:01:23] Speaker C: Dreams can come from nightmares too. The queen will take over you. Dreams can come from nightmares too. The queendom will take over you.
[00:01:40] Speaker B: Cheers. Cheers.
Welcome, Domina Augustina to thy Queen of Come. I'm so happy that you're here.
[00:01:49] Speaker D: Oh, thank you for having me.
[00:01:50] Speaker B: We are currently at XBIZ LA and I invited you here because you're such a cool. Part of my personal story. The first time I was ever invited into a professional dom session, it was by a sub and he had booked a session with you. So it just worked out that we, he, we were supposed to meet the first time that you guys did, but the timing didn't work out. So he met with you and then we met directly afterwards. And the first thing he ever said to me when I met him, my sub, my OG sub, which is on the first episode, which is my ass hurts, my ass really hurts. And you, you made his ass really fucking hurt. And so I met my sub, I talked with him, we met, and then the next time that I saw him was with you. And that was my first real session seeing a session with the dominatrix. And I remember you saying to me, like, what would you like him to call you? I was like, oh, Queen Lo. So that's you. Welcome. Thank you so much. I'm so happy you're here. And I was excited to hear more about your story and your journey to becoming Domina, Agustina.
[00:03:07] Speaker D: Oh, well, thank you so much for having me. I remember that session. It was a lot of fun.
It was fun. One. Since then Too. Like, that was just the start of.
[00:03:18] Speaker B: Yeah, no, it's been like two years now. And he is a consistent sub. We see each other probably every couple of months, like, quarterly. And we have built a relationship and we have. The last time we met, it was. We played this kind of scenario where he was like a locked up, enslaved sub.
[00:03:41] Speaker D: The captured couple.
[00:03:42] Speaker B: They were the captured couple. We had another girl, our girl Ray, who is a switch. She's a dom, but also she plays in the energies. And so our sub will call him OG Subby. He is. He's OG Subby. He's OG Subby. He's OG Subby.
[00:04:01] Speaker D: Boy, he deserves the title. He's a good one.
[00:04:03] Speaker B: Yes. No, he is, because he's the one who introduced me to it. Like, he's the one who. Who reached out to me. I was a podcast host who talked about sexuality, of BDSM and lifestyle, and he reached out and said, I have a. I have a session booked with a pro dom in LA and I would like for you to come and then for us to talk about it afterwards. And you were the pro dominant.
[00:04:26] Speaker D: Oh.
[00:04:27] Speaker B: And that's what happened. We ended up talking about. He told me his ass hurt a lot.
[00:04:32] Speaker D: He texted me the next. I don't know if it was the next day or whatever on the plane. She has her way on the plane.
[00:04:39] Speaker B: No. Yeah, that's kind of our signature now. We, like, let him hurt for days and days and days after. But last time it was me, you, and our girl Ray. And she played the submissive feminine in the scenario. And they were a captive, like, couple who were tied up and tortured. Yes. And, yeah, no, he didn't actually succeed. We told him that she had to come first and that she.
He was getting pegged. He was caged up. And we said that she had to get. She had to come first. But he didn't fucking make it. He came through his. He came through his cage, all through his cage onto the mattress. But anyways, I would like to know how did you. You're a doula in your.
[00:05:28] Speaker D: A midwife.
[00:05:29] Speaker B: A midwife. A midwife. You're a midwife in your. Day to day.
[00:05:33] Speaker D: Yes.
[00:05:34] Speaker B: And at times we've been at sessions, like, together, and you have been on call.
[00:05:40] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:05:40] Speaker B: So at any moment you could have to go deliver a baby. And I think you did, like, hours after one of our sessions.
[00:05:48] Speaker D: I think there was one where I left and I was like, I think I'm heading to a labor after this.
[00:05:52] Speaker B: Please tell me how, how. How did you end up pegging men and also delivering babies. I think the world would also like to know.
[00:06:02] Speaker D: I think. I mean, everyone has multiple parts to their personality, but the doming side, I think, has been in me the longest. So even when I was in high school, I used to like to bully the boys, of course.
And so I would create this little games where I don't know what the games were, but they would be like, if I win, I get to hit you in the balls. If you win, like, maybe you get the soda for my lunch or something like that. And they'd always want to play the games like they knew what the stakes were and they lose them. Probably on purpose.
[00:06:36] Speaker B: Probably on purpose because they love being punished. Look at Subby Slut here, by the way, Subby Sly is sitting here watching this episode being recorded, and he showed up to present weed at my feet, which is amazing. I'm in LA and I need fucking weed. And he got to kiss my feet. And now he's here watching this episode be recorded. And as you're saying, you know what, they could like to be punished on purpose. He's just sitting here nodding his head, yes, teacher, yes. Punish me.
Like, snap your fingers if you want to be punched.
Okay, so you were always this person, which is the case with so many of my domina friends. Even a guy I met earlier was talking about, like my dominant personality and it's like, oh, no, you are this person all the time or you are this business. Like you're marketing all that. It's like, no, like, I am this person. This is my business because I am this person. Yeah, it's the same fucking thing. You were always this person and you just decided to fucking start monetizing it. Yeah. And what was that like? How did you decide to do that?
[00:07:45] Speaker D: I slowly, over time, realized that these little sadistic and controlling tendencies of mine fell into the beautiful umbrella of what's called bdsm. And then I had a way to understand myself in like a. More like it gave me context. And I had a lifestyle sub who was like, you know, you can do this professionally, right? Like, obviously, like, I'm providing, like gifts, money, stuff like that. But like, you know, you can do this professionally. And I was like, yeah, that's a very good point. And so I started doing in person sessions.
I used the seeking side because I was like, well, I'm expensive. So the main denominator is, can you afford me?
[00:08:28] Speaker B: Can you afford me?
[00:08:28] Speaker D: And seeking is full of submissive men, because the world is full of submissive men.
[00:08:32] Speaker B: The World is full of submissive men.
[00:08:36] Speaker D: I don't know where I heard this stat. It was probably somewhere on Twitter or something like that. But apparently, like, 60% of men have some type of submissive tendency.
[00:08:45] Speaker B: In my experience, I would say the majority of men have some type of submissive quality.
[00:08:52] Speaker D: Yeah, like, I wouldn't say 60% of men want to be, like, milked into a shot glass and, like, need to eat their own cum, but maybe, like, slapped around.
No.
[00:09:02] Speaker B: 100%. Not every submission doesn't mean being bent over and pegged in every situation. Sometimes it just means getting told what to do and being forcibly put in touch with that softer side, but in a consensual way. And I think it actually makes you a better leader when you are able to empathize with that softer side 100%. You're able to get in touch with it, but you also fucking want it. Nobody wants to be in charge 24 fucking 7.
[00:09:35] Speaker D: It's true.
[00:09:36] Speaker B: And I feel like you see that.
[00:09:37] Speaker D: I mean, it's funny because I think a lot of people who aren't familiar with BDSM have this idea that, like, submissive men are, like, all little, like, runty weaklings and, you know, losers.
[00:09:47] Speaker B: Fat, disgusting losers. And it's like, no, you couldn't. They wouldn't be able to afford our services if that weren't the case. No, and that's exactly it. Like, I have people who actually make fun of my clients, and I'm like, do you realize that, like, these are the same people that you have to bite your tongue to every single day? You have to listen to their orders and bite your tongue and do what they say. And they're sucking my fucking silicone cock. Yeah, My mom literally realizes it. I'm like, just speak to them like, a little bit more. They want it.
They actually do want it. These men in this fucking corporate world, they have this streak in them that wants to be told what to fucking do, because no one does it.
[00:10:28] Speaker D: No one does it. And I think even outside of these men who are in particular positions of power in general, women are socialized to not say things that hurt people's feelings, not express themselves with candor. And so even regular ass dudes on the street are never getting the, like, full verbal frontal of what people actually think of them, at least from women. And so having that stripped away, I think is a new experience for a lot of them. And it's a very, like, interesting experience. It's like, oh, I am actually hearing what you think about me, not the Filtered version that all the other women in my life give me.
[00:11:07] Speaker B: Right? It's like they all know it. Like. And that's what I tell some of my subs. I'm like, who else in your life is going to tell you that you have a tiny cock? And the only reason anyone's tolerating you is that because you're in this position of power and you're actually kind of an asshole and you're kind of intolerable. And we need to, like, get below that. We need to, like, dig down and find what it is about you that is actually of service to people, that actually provides value not only to me, but to the fucking wider world. And who else in your life is going to tell you that? Not the people that you pay. Not your wife, not your kids. But they all are thinking it. They are all thinking it. And all of the frustrations and the insecurities and the feelings of not enoughness. And also the awareness that everyone around you is tolerating you because of who exactly you are. Like, the projection of those feelings. Where is that getting out under our field.
[00:12:04] Speaker D: Exactly.
[00:12:05] Speaker B: So you started through lifestyle. You started through lifestyle and then you decided to get on seeking.
[00:12:11] Speaker D: Yes, And I very much like to get in their heads. And I feel like the deeper that you can get into ASAP's brain, pick the little nooks and crannies in there. So I definitely like having subs who I seem like regularly or have like a ongoing relationship with. So, for example, OG Savvy boy.
[00:12:33] Speaker B: Yeah, OG Savvy boy.
[00:12:35] Speaker D: I like clients like that who. It's like, I know it makes you tick. One of my favorite things is hearing trigger stories for subs. So I love to tell subs. Like when I'm giving my little lectures online, I'm like, I don't think subs are created. I think you were hardwired this way and something made you count. Come online. And I love hearing their what made you come online as a sub story.
[00:12:55] Speaker B: What made you come online? What was the. What was the extra push?
[00:13:00] Speaker D: Yeah, and some of them have, like, very interesting stories. Some of them are like, it's just like the basic, like, my girlfriend cheated on me and for some reason that made me hard.
[00:13:07] Speaker B: That's a lot of the story.
[00:13:09] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:13:09] Speaker B: A lot of them don't know why they're hate wanking to the fact that their girlfriend cheated on them. And it's like, okay, it makes you hard, like, cry about it. Let's get over it. It's like, let's move on let's. Let's think about why.
[00:13:20] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:13:21] Speaker B: So you started on seeking, and when I met you with OG Sebi, you had been doming for some time.
[00:13:32] Speaker D: I'd been doing it professionally for a couple years at that point, but I wasn't like really doing anything online at that point. So it was. I was still like in my fully, I'm just doming in person phase or like over text or something like that.
[00:13:46] Speaker B: And we had a conversation one day after we met with OBG Subby. We left him. Literally. He made a huge mess on his mattress through his, like, rubber cage. After we had like tied him up, he broke the. The fucking machinery that we had in between his legs. I think it got.
It got. It got ripped. And then we spent time talking outside about this concept of like, being, being a man and how we are in this position to call these extremely powerful men. Like, you said that a lot of the world, a lot of the very vanilla world that we interact with every day, they suck these guys dicks to get by. And these are the men who are begging to be called losers. They're begging to be called losers. They're at our feet and they are trying to find in themselves what masculinity means to them. Meanwhile, we have the mainstream idea of what it means to be a man.
[00:14:50] Speaker D: Definitely. I mean, I think toxic masculinity, like, obviously there's a lot of. It affects women much more negatively than it affects men. We don't need to get into that part. But toxic masculinity, I think, creates like a cage that men have to not only stay inside, but perform constantly. Especially these men in power who are constantly being like, visualized, scrutinized by the people underneath them who like, have to perform all the time. They have to live up to these standards that society men have created for themselves. But I think a lot of the reason that they love being a loser that like, that they. So many of these things are like, dehumanizing. Like being a wallet, being a slut, being a pig, being a loser. It takes the human element out of it. Like, you are not responsible. You are not being held to a standard. Like, nobody expects a loser to comply with these standards of toxic masculinity. Nobody expects a, like, pig or a slut to have to be anything particularly. And so that's a way to shed that for a little while and then you get off at the same time. And that's very, very freeing, like, to leave all of that behind. And so I think for a lot of them there's all this anxiety, the weight of the world that they take off their shoulders for a little. Yeah. While they're sucking cock.
[00:16:09] Speaker B: While they're sucking cock. It's also so, like in the word blasphemous, like it's so bad. And their experience, like every day, their entire lives and everything a lot of my subs are working up to is to being is to be viewed in this certain way and to be successful and to have power and to have status.
[00:16:31] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:16:32] Speaker B: And to go to a place that no one knows about. Not a single person knows about where you get on your fucking knees.
And if a single person in your life knew that you called yourself a stupid, pathetic fucking loser and sucked a vibrating glittery strap on and got filled like. No, it's this idea that if anyone found out that this is who I am. Which is why what we do is so fucking powerful. Because it's so real and it's. So whether it's sucking strap on or being this crazy submissive sloth, these desires like these that are so insane and that you feel like are so wrong. And the fact they're so wrong that they kind of like, they get us off.
They get us off. And these. It's amazing that these super powerful people who give orders all day and are put on pedestals and I think that like the subs that I have that are in those positions that are able to get on their knees and take direction and actually listen. And even though it's in this context, it shows that they have the actually fucking the ability to do that. And they're able to take that like shred of softness and the ability to listen and the ability to give a woman power and the ability to take the backseat. Like they're able to take those. Those qualities out into the world.
[00:18:08] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:18:09] Speaker B: And I believe that my subs are better leaders because of that.
[00:18:13] Speaker D: Yeah. I mean, you're gaining access to them. Like these men in particular, like all of the parts of their life, there's not really anything that's just theirs. Like they're. When they're at work, being in charge of everyone. Like everyone needs something from you, Your family needs something from you. There's never a lot of things that are like just yours. And this for them, practiced, honestly, I would say arguably as a form of self care just for them.
[00:18:39] Speaker B: It is like therapy. It's like. It's like a vacation.
[00:18:42] Speaker D: Yeah. And so in the same way that like a therapist might change your view on something or put you in a different headspace when you like exit back into the world. You having this access to them and this like thing that is just for them when they are able to shed those walls down that they have up all the time, it gives you this really deep access. So yeah, it really is like changing how they go act out in the world afterwards.
[00:19:06] Speaker B: And it has a ripple effect. Yeah, that's the thing. Like these men who come to us and subs who come to us who process these very deep, whether they're traumatic or whether they're desires, whether they're, whether they're fantasies, they're coming to process things and they're there regardless. And so they're either going to process them this way or they're going to go out into the world where they're frustrated, angry, repressed. And that's affecting every person around them. Every person around them. Which is why like I'm so passionate about just having the conversation and like realizing like how many men and people I have come to me today, like every day, every week thinking that they're so different by having these fucking desires. And it's like I wouldn't be here if you were that friend. Like you're unique, you're a snowflake, but you're not that different.
[00:19:58] Speaker D: You're just the 10th guy this week who's asked if he can buy my socks.
[00:20:01] Speaker B: Like you're not that. I just sold my, I just sold my AirPods airport socks.
I just sent them out.
[00:20:09] Speaker D: Yeah, honestly like I think there's a lot of these men who are in like high position power. Like I mean I've had politicians and like CEOs and stuff like that be clients of mine. But also I think it, there's, there's lots of these guys who truly have like their ripple effect is huge. But there's also plenty of like average Joes and middle class guys who are literally saving up for these experiences because they see them as like valuable their self care, they see them as valuable like it means something to them. And I think that's where sometimes we see some of the like rhetoric online about lifestyle submission. I think it's these guys that they are most likely to be affected by that in a negative way. And that's why I think doms need to be very careful about how they project things that are fantasy. Because being a lifestyle sub, that's great. Nothing wrong with that. But I think this idea of like being a loser and going broke, like your wife is gonna leave you because you spent all your money on me, like your kids aren't Gonna have anything this Christmas because you just couldn't stop spending money on me.
[00:21:15] Speaker B: Which. And completely against the actual court of bdsm.
[00:21:19] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:21:20] Speaker B: Which like social media and the access now, it's like it's. It's a gift and it's also a curse because there are so many people getting involved now into this world who have. BDSM is supposed to be the safest place for people to go and explore and be vulnerable and like, professionally in a business sense as well as a human. Like, you're no good to me if you're broken and fucking broke and if you're on the street and if I actually destroy you, like, that is a beautiful, sexy language that I'm gonna destroy you and all of those things. But because of the accessibility these days with social media and the Internet, there are so many people coming into the world who like, actually don't know boundaries. And the fact that it's supposed to be a very, very safe space. Like, it's supposed to be a place where you're able to like, let go and trust. Give away trust. Submission is a. Being a sub is. It's like an informed choice where you trust and you give away your. Your power.
[00:22:21] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:22:22] Speaker B: And the accessibility that we have today is. It's a blessing and a curse. And there's so much.
[00:22:27] Speaker D: It. I mean, it truly is. I think there are a lot of subs out there who have like very like long term and in depth fantasies. And there's so many people who get off on like these like very long term fantasies. But it has to be a fantasy, like in the same way that, like, you can't take power from someone who has no power if you're not out there creating worth in the world. And it doesn't even have to be monetarily. Like, if you're not out there, if you're just out there being like a shit person.
[00:22:53] Speaker B: Yeah. No, some of these guys, like, they're like, tay, I'm gonna be your slave. Take my power. And I'm like, what? Like, I don't want to own TR Rash. Like, this is not a show. Like, what?
[00:23:02] Speaker D: You have to be worth My time 100%. So being a pathetic loser, like, you can't step on someone who's already.
[00:23:08] Speaker B: You're not actually supposed to be a pathetic loser. That's like the thing. Like, I'm gonna call you my pathetic loser, but, like, if you're actually a pathetic loser, you can't afford my services. Yeah. Like, that's the thing. Like, you have to be Actually responsible in the way that you engage with your king.
[00:23:22] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:23:22] Speaker B: In this space.
[00:23:24] Speaker D: Yeah. That's why when subs are like, oh, no, I'm going broke for Femdom, I'm like, I'm not interested. Then, like, go make more money. Go do something with your life. Figure it out.
[00:23:33] Speaker B: I want to inspire my subs. Like, go fucking. I don't know. My subs get creative. I lock them up, like, cage them up. And then all of a sudden, all their sexual and creative energy is just flowing through them and they're writing poetry and selling it on fucking Etsy. Like, get. Get creative. Yeah, don't go broke. You don't. You're no good to me if you're on the street in hungry. Like, what? It's a terrible business tactic to. To destroy your sluts and put them on the street. Hungry and cold.
[00:24:01] Speaker D: 100%.
It's also just like, there's something that feels really good about taking someone who's, like, up here and bringing them. Like, you are my loser. You are my pathetic. I have turned you into a pathetic loser. Not, you're a pathetic loser. I'm just like, I guess I'll play with this for a little while. No.
[00:24:19] Speaker B: No. And that he's chosen. That you've chosen to come here. It's like an empowered choice.
And that is what BDSM is at its core is giving away power. Like, it's an empowered choice to submit, which is why I think it's so fucking hot. Like, in a world where women constantly have to fucking take power. Like, talk to successful women anywhere and they talk about how they have to take power every single day. And being a dominatrix and being in Femdom is the one fucking place that we are constantly given power every single day. Like, power is actually given to us. And I think about that, like, in women who are in all other industries, like selling cars, I'm like, you're getting hired and you're using the same exact qualities that we use. You're selling an idea and you are connecting and you are weaving your way through the mind the same exact way that we do. Acceptance for the man.
[00:25:19] Speaker D: That's true.
[00:25:20] Speaker B: That is very true for fucking Elon. Fuck that shit. So for you, what has been the biggest difference between doming in person and doming online?
[00:25:34] Speaker D: There's less hoops to jump through when you're doming online. Like, you don't have to pass a video interview to. With an in person interview. You have to pass a video interview so that I know that You're a safe human.
[00:25:45] Speaker B: There's a whole screening. Yeah.
[00:25:48] Speaker D: There's like logistics of like, are you booking a room in a dungeon? Are you booking a room in a hotel? Whereas, like this I just get access to you.
[00:25:56] Speaker B: They can just call home. Yeah. Or they're like Toyota.
[00:26:01] Speaker D: Yeah, exactly. It could be that. And quite honestly, a video session with me is far less expensive than an in person session with. So there's a lot more like subs who One can afford it. There's shy subs who just.
[00:26:15] Speaker B: It's a lot more accessible.
[00:26:17] Speaker D: Faint.
[00:26:17] Speaker B: If they tried to do like 100% burst into a million pieces. If they saw you in person, they couldn't afford it. And also their nerves would probably. They couldn't last either.
[00:26:30] Speaker D: 100%. And then just like now I can do video sessions with subs and fucking France and Germany and obviously unless they were like in town and it worked out for us.
[00:26:40] Speaker B: Right. So the accessibility is amazing. Like it is having subs all over the world.
[00:26:46] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:26:47] Speaker B: Which even. Yeah. Even in being in the most glamorous cities, like, it just. The worldwide.
[00:26:55] Speaker D: The reach is just so much further.
[00:26:57] Speaker B: I think it also, it opens the door to way more kinks and way more things than I ever experienced just in person. Like with my in person sessions. Like, I never had an in person session. Like a sub, like beg to fuck himself with like multiple bananas online.
That happens a lot. Like that's not something that. You know what I'm saying? Like, I think I feel like people are more willing to expose deeper parts of themselves when it's on the Internet. And in some ways it's like a blessing and a curse. In some ways I feel like I'm like an Internet person. Like not a real person in some senses. Like that they feel safe doing things with. But it's also like there is a. There is a benefit to that. Like they feel safe enough to like, if they want to fuck themselves with four bananas and then like shat it out and then like look it up like a dog. Like that's. That. That's what we're doing. However, I've. I've never had a person in person actually request to do that.
[00:28:04] Speaker D: That's true.
[00:28:05] Speaker B: But I see it online a lot.
[00:28:07] Speaker D: That's true. You've got that like extra level of safety of like. Again, for those subs that are like so nervous, like, who wouldn't be able to like shove those bananas up their ass in front of you and in.
[00:28:17] Speaker B: Places, in countries and in places that they're not able to Access these things. Like, they're able to. Because they're able to come online, they're able to engage with these parts of themselves that in reality don't exist.
[00:28:30] Speaker D: Yeah, 100%.
[00:28:31] Speaker B: And doing the Lord's work.
[00:28:32] Speaker D: Here we are.
[00:28:35] Speaker B: What is one of your best subby stories?
[00:28:40] Speaker D: I feel like it's always different for different people what they find.
[00:28:44] Speaker B: That's so true. Because, like, so true.
[00:28:47] Speaker D: There are some people who are going to be shocked by, like, body stuff. Like, there's the fact that, like, subs want to, like, buy used tampons to treat them like lollipops. Like, some people find that most shocking. Or like, some people, like, truly don't understand, like, with the human ATM fetish or, like, any. Like, there's so many different wild things that.
Sorry, this is a hard question to answer, and I probably should. All right, one hit.
[00:29:12] Speaker B: Which one?
Oh, the pancake. Oh, but that one. Oh, that was on. That was actually over a year ago. I thank you for reminding me. No, it was. He literally. We had him jizz into a bowl, and then we had him baste it up like a turkey. Baste. Baste it up, shoot it up his ass, and then put every bit of it back into a bowl and then make pancakes and eat it with Queen Lou's bitch written across his forehead. That's so fucking funny.
[00:29:42] Speaker D: That is so fucking brilliant.
[00:29:44] Speaker B: But is it shocking? Is it shocking, though?
[00:29:48] Speaker D: It's not that I think the world of Femdom. There's not a lot that's gonna shock you. I think if you're a vanilla listener, you're probably setting mouth agape.
[00:29:56] Speaker B: I mean, so much crazy shit. Just like that. Like, pancake, cum, ass, batter. Like, okay, it's normal. It's Tuesday, you know, but you're right. You're right. What?
Making cup pancakes. Making cupcakes. No, he did. He shot them. You know, put. That is. That's my German slut. That's what I. That's why when I meet, like, just super aggressive German guys, I'm like, listen, like, I see you.
I see you completely. Like, you're so German and aggressive, but, like, at some point you just want to drop to your knees and shove a couple bananas up your ass and then shat them out. When you have your cock in a cage and then, like, lick it up and just be told what to do and kicked around and, like, you want my toenails and your fucking nostrils.
[00:30:44] Speaker D: I think a lot of it is just, like, turning your brain off. Yeah, Like, a lot of them, like, the idea of, like, being hypnotized or, like, giving over full control and just letting me be the voice in their head. And that can be for literally anything. Like, that can be who you are as a person. It can be sph. It can be, like, what your destiny is as a male sub. Or, like, why you are a cuck.
[00:31:13] Speaker B: Or, like, the layers, they go back so deep. Like, it's. That's the fun in it. Like, the fun is not just, like, calling and saying, like, mommy, like, I want to wank. It's peeling back those layers and understanding why exactly. You like watching your woman get fucked.
[00:31:31] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:31:31] Speaker B: Or why you want to be nurtured a certain way.
[00:31:34] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:31:35] Speaker B: That's what makes it hot. So a big part of BDSM is psychological, which I don't know if a lot of people understand. People think, like, whips, chains, stilettos.
[00:31:47] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:31:48] Speaker B: And so when you mention hypno work.
[00:31:51] Speaker D: So that one gets a little bit complicated because on so many of the sites, you're not supposed to technically use.
[00:31:57] Speaker B: No, it's hypnosis.
[00:31:59] Speaker D: This is against MasterCard regulations or whatever.
[00:32:03] Speaker B: MasterCard and Visa.
[00:32:05] Speaker D: Yeah, them. But I think it's. It ties into the whole. Like, they want to. Like, they love the idea of turning off their brains. Like, it doesn't. It's not even just, like, necessarily like, these men in power who have, like, the weight of the world on their shoulders, but, like, even your regular joes out there, they have, like, the little voice in the back of their head telling them, like, fuck, you have to get this shit done tomorrow. Like, there are bills to be paid. Like, your relationship shit. Like, what are you going to talk to your. Like, they want that voice to shut the fuck up. And so they replace. I replace that voice.
The rest of their brain goes silent because I'm the only thing that's in their head. And so it's just very freeing to shed all of that and to leave that behind and then get to have an erotic experience at the same time. And the truth is, like, there's no, like, true hypnosis. Like, I'm not holding, like, a little clock on.
[00:33:04] Speaker B: Like, there's no, Like, I can speak.
[00:33:06] Speaker D: Very slowly, and I'm my mean, bitchy self while speaking a little bit slowly normally. And they're all, like, entrance goddess. Like, I'm hypnotized. Like, you can do whatever with me. And just. I talked to them about, like, shutting their brains off, leaving, like, the nagging worries behind. And this is a. Like, a time where, like, you get to Be my dirty little pervert. And you get to turn off your brain. And that is so fucking exciting for them.
[00:33:35] Speaker B: Turning off their brain is so hot. Like, that connected to actually connecting with someone who cares and who sees them and who doesn't judge them and who, like, allows them to be whoever they want to be in that moment.
[00:33:48] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:33:49] Speaker B: Partnered with just. There are no decisions here. There are just rules for you to follow.
[00:33:55] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:33:56] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:33:56] Speaker D: It feels really good.
[00:33:57] Speaker B: It feels really good to let go 100%.
[00:34:01] Speaker D: It's really, really freeing.
[00:34:03] Speaker B: No, I think we see it. I think we see it all the time. Yeah, we see that their eyes fluttered back into the. Into the back of their head and their toes curling in the weightlessness of being free and making no decisions.
[00:34:20] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:34:21] Speaker B: Under our stilettos.
[00:34:23] Speaker D: Exactly.
[00:34:25] Speaker B: In the abyss. And the emphasis.
So when men come to you about sph, and a lot of people listening are probably like, what the fuck is that?
[00:34:37] Speaker D: So SPH stands for Small Penis Humiliation. And I have to say, among all the different types of subs there are, I think most of them have this added in to whatever it is. If you enjoy being cuckolded, if you're, like, a sissy, which means you like being feminized. All of them like being told that their cock is just too small and can't please women, they should just give up and stick it in the cage, literally.
[00:35:01] Speaker B: Even guys who have, like, average, not terrible cocks, they want to be told they will go through extraordinary measures to send photos of their cocks and videos of their cocks where they look smaller than they actually are because they want to be humiliated for how small they are and how they lack the ability to please a woman ever.
[00:35:25] Speaker D: Yeah, I think it's just such a core visual of masculinity that that's, like, probably one of the, like, easiest on the nose forms of emasculation that there is.
[00:35:38] Speaker B: So right, saying that you have a tiny fucking cock because, like, a cock, a huge fucking dick. Even, like, in our every bit of our pop culture and society, it's like, oh, grow a pair. Show your big slinging thing. When in actuality, a lot of men are walking around feeling completely insufficient.
[00:36:00] Speaker D: Yeah, they say that, like, women most fear, like, being physically harmed by men, and men most fear being laughed at by women and facing the fear. Or, like, the greatest fear of a woman laughing at your cock. What else do you have to be afraid of at that point?
[00:36:18] Speaker B: And it's also honest, like working with a dom and then having a dom. Like, paying someone to actually laugh. At your cock and call attention to the very obvious. When you've spent your whole life being afraid of going out and taking your pants off and being laughed at or actually being laughed at, but in a way that's not obvious. Like they say, oh, someone's calling me and I have to leave. And. And everyone knows that your clock is so small that she doesn't want to. She doesn't want to raise her number for you like she did. It's not worth it. And that is the very sad truth. And a lot of guys deal with this every single day. And so coming to a dom like us again, we are able to call attention and draw focus to something that no one else in your life is able to like. If you're buying it. If you have a beautiful house and you're a boss and you're buying drinks and you're doing this and you're. That, even when you bring a hot chick home, she's still probably not going to tell you that you have a tiny fucking cock.
[00:37:16] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:37:17] Speaker B: And it's not your personality either. And no one in your life, except for a dominant hot chick who's taking your money to be an actual con, is going to tell you that and make you dig, dig below that.
[00:37:30] Speaker D: It's true.
[00:37:31] Speaker B: Like, you have a tiny. Let's get over it. Cry me a river. What's next?
[00:37:35] Speaker D: You don't like. Just because you have a small fucking cock doesn't mean you don't get to have a sexually satisfying life.
[00:37:41] Speaker B: Like, no.
[00:37:41] Speaker D: Are you gonna, like, are you gonna make girls come with penetration? No, no, absolutely not. A lot more than you can do. Like, enjoy being. There's so much you get to enjoy.
[00:37:50] Speaker B: System use your tongue, use your mouth and learn how to eat fucking pussy in a while. Like, it's. It doesn't have to be a curse. It can be an actual blessing. You. There's a lot of guys walking around with very average cocks and they're like, actually, like, actually vacationing in the fucking Midwest. You know, it's not giant. It's not tiny. It's not making anyone scream. It's not making anyone laugh. It's just getting by.
And fortunately for my subs, they have decided to be extraordinary. Like, average cock is worse than, like, micro. Because at least if you're micro, you're fucking interesting. But if you're average, you're just skating through life, like, never making a woman actually scream. Like, she's just telling you, yeah, it was fine. It was okay for me. And I think that subs have the opportunity to actually do something extraordinary with their very, very average cock, which I think a lot of guys have and feel very insecure about.
[00:38:48] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:38:48] Speaker B: And it screams. It's very loud.
Until they're able to get on their knees and deal with it and be told to their face. So many guys go out and have interactions and feel shy and scared about what they're going to face when they get back home. And so some of them opt not to do that. And they come to women like us and they pay to be actually told the truth of what they would experience when they go out anyways. It's almost a form of taking a power over it, I think.
[00:39:21] Speaker D: So, like facing your fear.
[00:39:23] Speaker B: Facing your fear and taking control over it. That's what a lot of cucks like. A lot of cucks become cucks because their women cheated on them. They either saw it or they found out about it. And all of a sudden they're hate wanking to it and they're getting boners over the idea of their woman with someone else. And they have no idea why, because it's fucking hot. It hurts that your woman went out and got fucked better than you could ever provide her. And for some reason it turns you on. And you have to address that. You have to address it or you get angry.
[00:39:54] Speaker D: Cucks are interesting for me because they, I feel like, can come from multiple places. I think for some of them it's the like the thrill of the humiliation, the thrill of examining what.
What am I lacking, the facing of their insecurities. And then there's some cucks that are just like true compersionists who really just like love the idea of their woman getting pleasure. And if that's something that someone else delivers better, then, like, that's great. And I think it's very interesting the way that they want to be spoken to based on what is the root.
[00:40:33] Speaker B: Of their fetish, whether it's humiliation or whether it's a. An ability to give pleasure in a way that they cannot.
[00:40:43] Speaker D: Yeah, I think also, like, there's. There's to me, like very clearly like two different types of subs. There are subs who are focused on putting women's and specifically dom's pleasure above anything else, including their own pleasure. And there are subs who are wanting something. They want to receive something and usually that is humiliation. Like some like more service or like DOM focused subs like receiving humiliation because it makes the dom happy. But the majority of subs who are interested in humiliate humiliation, it's because it is a self centered thing that they are receiving something from you that they.
[00:41:23] Speaker B: Are dealing with, something that they are projecting against. Like the thing that they want to be humiliated is like for example, when I have subs calling me wanting to be humiliated for being little cock sucking gay boys.
Those are the exact guys that are out lobbying against gay rights.
And that is the fucking truth. Guys who are so angry and prejudiced against like gay rights are the ones who are calling me desperate to be forced to go out and suck some cock. They want me to make them go suck some cock, to send proof to suck cock. It's because it's projection. It's loud.
[00:42:07] Speaker D: Yeah, it is.
[00:42:08] Speaker B: It's loud. Which goes back to small penis humiliation.
Like these guys with small dicks, they want to be fucking humiliated one way or another. Whether it's buying a fucking big truck or whether it's getting under the heels of a fucking hot dom. Like that energy gets out somewhere. Especially when you live in a society that tells you that you're supposed to have a fat cock and nail women down to oblivion. And when you're just not capable of that and when you're being inundated with that every single second of every single day, always like that's the only form of success is having a big slinging fat cock. And when that's not you, of course, of course you're gonna find other ways to compensate.
[00:42:51] Speaker D: I mean, I think it's like a freedom to escape that. Like we were talking earlier about how masculinity as society has decided it's supposed to be is like very confining for men. And there are healthier ways to explore that separating those two things. I think one of the things, if I remember our conversation that we had outside after our last session is that like one mistake that the people who aren't familiar with BDSM and with subs would make is thinking like, oh, these men are less than the typical alpha male. Like their masculinity is less than. And like, yes, they want to hear that in the session. They do want to be emasculated. They do in the session want to hear that they are, are less masculine. But these men who come to these sessions are arguably like better men or have, or like have a, a purer and healthier form of masculinity than a lot of the other fuckwads out there.
[00:43:47] Speaker B: 100 and they're better leaders because they're able to get in touch with their softer sides. The sides that listen. Like a good leader knows how to listen.
[00:43:58] Speaker D: 100.
[00:43:59] Speaker B: Like, a good leader knows how to take criticism. A good leader knows how to follow at times, understands humility, understands humanity, is able to connect. And there are so many people out there who are so threatened and who are so insecure and they're unable to do that. And because of that, they are leaders who are. Again, that ripple effect, that force, that true dominance doesn't have to be taken. You know, like, when subs come to me and they're like, oh, make me submit. Make me do this. I'm like, I'm not gonna make you do shit because I don't want you taking that form of what you believe. Submission is out into the world forcing people to submit to you. That's not what submission is like. True submission is learning how to trust and actually give power away. And being able to take the passenger seat and listen and respond and take direction and empathize and sit in your more feminine, energetic sides.
[00:45:06] Speaker D: I mean, it requires respect. Respect is earned. It's not taken. And that's why control falls under that same category.
[00:45:13] Speaker B: Like, respect is earned and not taken. Which is why something BDSM is so powerful. Like, so many people think of dominance as like, I'm going to take it. I'm controlling you. And it's like, not within bdsm. It's no, like, I am actually giving you. I am giving you power to do whatever you want with me. Like, and there's a safe word, and I can take that. I can take that consent away at any time, but I am actually giving you that ability to do whatever you want with me. Like, that's the true form of dominance. Not like, I am taking you.
[00:45:46] Speaker D: And just because you're so restrained that you can't fight back and have no exit, like, you've experienced this thing.
[00:45:52] Speaker B: Exactly.
So what's next for you? You're going online now and are you still working in person? You're.
[00:46:01] Speaker D: I am still working in person. I just got back from Argentina a few days ago. But with the online stuff, like, especially the streaming picking up at the speed that it is, it's given me, like, I have so many subs who are waiting to do their, like, pre their video interview that I make them do before they're allowed to book their in person sessions.
[00:46:21] Speaker B: Yeah, always so important.
[00:46:25] Speaker D: It weeds them out. I'm like, if you can't get through a video interview, like, I'm not wasting my time.
[00:46:30] Speaker B: No, that's exactly it. If I can't see you, if I can't see you on video, and connect with you on video. I have no interest with you in person.
[00:46:39] Speaker D: No.
[00:46:39] Speaker B: Before I was. Before I was online, like, I would meet my subs and we would meet, like, at a bar before a session, and we would kind of like, connect and have that, like, unsexy conversation of, like, safe words and, like, what you're into and hard limits, soft limits. And now that I'm online, like, all of that can happen beforehand. And so then you're able to have that, like, conversation connection, and then you can actually get into that space and be free. You, like, create those boundaries and you're able to be free within them because you establish that. So I'm glad you're getting online and establishing that.
[00:47:15] Speaker D: It's been really fun.
[00:47:17] Speaker B: Travel and. Fuck off.
[00:47:19] Speaker D: Yeah.
I mean, one of the fun things about streaming from Argentina is that I. We were five hours ahead, so I ended up hitting, like, a completely different, like, sub population. So I was getting a lot of subs in, like, Europe and stuff who were like. Because it was a different time zone for them, like, they were tuning in at a different time.
[00:47:38] Speaker B: And so I also think that probably because you're from Argentina, that guys were probably just leaking and busting because of that simple fact alone. Because men are very simple creatures.
[00:47:49] Speaker D: Very silly.
Yeah. I don't ever really dom in Spanish, though. I'm just not as comfortable.
[00:47:56] Speaker B: Really.
[00:47:56] Speaker D: Yeah, Yeah.
[00:47:58] Speaker B: I am wanting to perfect my Spanish so that I can dom in Spanish. I think that would be so fucking hot.
[00:48:05] Speaker D: I think.
Nice.
[00:48:08] Speaker B: I'm learning. I'm learning. I'm learning.
[00:48:10] Speaker D: I think for me in particular, because from. I'd say for a lot of doms, it's probably true, but just the. Obviously men are visual creatures, but they like to fucking listen. They handle when they're told every fucking word. And for me, like, I've like. With like. I've also been streaming on Twitch and stuff. Like, the way that I've been marketing is, like, very hypnotic. Very like asmr. Like, you're turning off your brain and I'm in your brain now. And so for me, that, like, flow state and, like, I feel like my style is like, I'm got a big vocabulary that I put to use with, like, the little perverted gremlins in my head. And so I don't have that same range in Spanish. I don't have that same, like, vulgar eloquence that I. The vulgar eloquence that I have in English. So I would love to develop a.
[00:49:02] Speaker B: Vulgar eloquence in Spanish. That sounds so Hot.
[00:49:08] Speaker D: I'm sure you will.
[00:49:09] Speaker B: I will. I mean, I'm living in Mexico. I feel like not doing so is kind of a. It's an injustice.
[00:49:16] Speaker D: I mean, you get that immersion situation.
[00:49:20] Speaker B: You're gonna have to come down and visit and have to do, like, a Mexico extravaganza.
[00:49:25] Speaker D: That would be a lot of fun.
[00:49:26] Speaker B: That would be a lot of fun.
I'm so happy that I had you here tonight, that you were here, that we met, and that you ushered me into this space.
[00:49:37] Speaker D: Aw.
[00:49:38] Speaker B: And that you're online now. I'm gonna take the online world by storm. Feather balls underneath your stiletto.
[00:49:45] Speaker D: Yeah, that's exactly right. Well, thank you so much for having me. This is a lot of fun. It's always been fun getting to do sessions with you and chatting with you.
[00:49:55] Speaker B: Every time you ushered me into the world. I remember, like, the first time I. And they're like, what would you like him to call you? I was like, oh, so it is. So it is.
Please tell the world where they can find you.
[00:50:13] Speaker D: You can find me on Twitter on loyal fans.
Those are the best places to connect with me. Omina Domina. Xox. That's my username, is the same on everything, which makes it real easy.
[00:50:29] Speaker B: They will be on the show notes. Fantastic. And we do. We do sessions together.
[00:50:36] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:50:36] Speaker B: So if you are in LA and you're a sub and want to suck our cocks, reach out on my website, thequeendom.com.
[00:50:44] Speaker D: Hell, yeah.
[00:50:45] Speaker B: Mention the episode.
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[00:51:57] Speaker A: Protect the sluts involved.
